7 ways to get out of a rut when you hate your job - TheJobNetwork

7 ways to get out of a rut when you hate your job - TheJobNetworkHate your job? Or just feel stuck? Maybe the aufgabe is you and maybe the problem is the job, but sometimes moving on right away is not an option. If this is your situation, there are ways to make walking through the door of the job you despisemore bearable. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) So even if youre just sticking around and biding time until you find something more bearable, here are some strategies to find inspiration in the unlikeliest of places.1. Fix what is in your control.Whats the root of your actual problem/malaise? It is possible to find the root of your work blahs and correct it, thus making your job everything it ought to be? Ask yourself which tasks you like vs. hate, what things challenge you, and what things make you unbelievably bored. You can always try and find a way to shift the balance to the good stuff by taking a little initiative and making a go od case to the powers that be.2. Examine yourself to see if the problem lies within.Just for a second, forget all the reasons your job is the problem and ask yourself whats going on with you. Is this job/company/industry right for you? If not, can you move? How long would the process take? If the problem turns out to be your attitude and not your work life, then you can fix that with a lot less logistical mess.3. Think about the big picture.Zoom out and start thinking about your future. Ask yourself what you really wanta sort of mission statement for your career. Make yourself a declaration of purpose, along with rough sketch of where you want to be in 5 years. Then ask yourself how you can get there. Suck whatever marrow you can from the bone you have in front of you while planning how to get the next one. Find your breakthrough momentwhen you realize what you want and how you are going to go about getting it.4. Look at the other grass.Think that career across the lawn looks greene r and easier? Take some time to watch someone else work and see a) whether their life is actually much different, and (more importantly) b) whether you can infuse something you learn from watching them work into how your approach your own professional journey. You never know what sort of revolutionary methods you can come up with to jazzmusik up your career.5. Surround yourself with positive people.Bond with colleagues who radiate positivity. When youre stuck in a rut and hate your job, it can be really easy (and sometimes utterly necessary) to fall into the habit of spending all your time with other complaining coworkers. But if you try to spend some time with the people who arent quite so jaded, you might just find your own attitude improves by osmosis.6. Do better.Just because your job isnt all its cracked up to be doesnt mean that you can phone it in or casually fail at it. Keep improving and see if you can get that extra award or certification, or reach that higher bar in order to make a transition out of there much easier. Take angeschlossen courses. Take your company up on professional development programming. Start trying super-hard and see what happens.7. Practice self-care.On bad days when you just cant stand it anymore, dont despair. Instead, take a quick walk outside to shake off your bad mood. Go take a coffeeor an ice creambreak somewhere in nature. Whatever you do, dont let your whole mood and demeanor go sour because of small things. Shake it off and get back to the task at handimproving your situation or finding a path out.

Heres How Many Friends You Actually Have, According to Science

Heres How Many Friends You Actually Have, According to Science Whos yourbest friend? This question appears simple and straightforward on the surface, but science tells a more complex story.Researchindicates that while you may be able to rattle of a list of your friends with ease, only 53% of those people would include you on their own list.Researchers examined relationship surveys from multiple experiments and found that while a majority of friendships are expected to be reciprocal, the truth is only about half of them actually are. Why do we believe that people are our friends when they arent? One possibility is that we subconsciously do know we value them more than they value us, but we suppress the knowledge because being one-half of a non-reciprocal friendship can damage our self-image.Anthropologist and evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar proposed that any individual can maintain stable relationships with no more than 150 people, and this theory is often referenced as Dunbars Number. Dunbar believes we have different levels of friendships a couple of best friends, maybe ten we feel a great affinity toward, and many other types of people who we get along with, but have bedrngnis formed deep, sustainable bonds with.Malcolm Gladwell discusses Dunbars Number at length in his bookThe Tipping Point. Gladwell rehashes the story of the leaders of W.L. Gore and Associates who discovered that when over 150 employees worked together in a building, social issues frequently arose. The company eventually set a 150-employee limit per building.When it comes to friendships, the quality of the friendships truly does outweigh the quantity. Maintaining many superficial relationships can lead to insecurity and feeling lonelier than simply being alone. Those undesirable feelings can become destructive if not checked. Developing deeper, more meaningful connections can decrease this risk. Rather than keeping 10 or 20 friends around with whom you share relationships that are ju st so-so, the key is to find a handful or less of truly great friends who provide you with a feeling of comfort and security.If youre feeling a bit unnerved after learning this I was dont fear. There are plenty of ways to enkoranvers that you nurture your existing friendships to keep them as strong as possible1. Communicate HonestlyNo surprise here when you exhibit genuine behavior, you foster genuine relationships. When issues arise in a friendship, communicate with tact but also sincerity. Avoid saying things about friends that you arent saying to them, and express how you feel directly instead of being cryptic.2. Show UpWhen you tell a friend youre going to be there for them, mean it. If they need support or a helping hand, offer it. Make sure they know that should a trying time arise, they have you in their corner.3. Be PresentOne of the most frustrating moments in some of my friendships has been showing up to hang with someone who stays on their phone the entire time. It feel s like they dont want to be there, which makes me not want to be around them. When you make plans with someone, put down the device and really listen to what they say.4. Exhibit EmpathyWhen someone you know vents or complains to you, show that youre truly engaged. Display signs of active listening, offer them advice, and try to really put yourself in their situation when they divulge a problem to you.5. Laugh TogetherYes, its crucial to be a good friend when the going gets rough, but remember to keep having exciting experiences that you can look back on later. Be someone who people can depend on but also feel good being around.--Kayla Heisler is an essayist and Pushcart Prize-nominatedpoet. She is a contributing writer for Color My Bubble.Her work appears inNew Yorks Best Emerging Poetsanthology.